On this episode of Business Mentor Podcast, Jay Dhilllon is joined by Kul Mahay!

Jay and Kul talk about Kul’s career background and how he believes leadership should be. Kul emphasizes on the two kinds of leadership (dissonance and resonance), the importance of human interactions, the vulnerability of leaders, authenticity of leadership, removal of negativity from your life, and so much more.


  • It’s normal for leaders to sometimes feel the impostor syndrome. We’re all human beings. Sometimes, despite being successful, we feel we lack internally of
  • Leaders don’t like talking to other leaders about their weaknesses. You think they might have high expectations of you. You might be perceived as weak but it’s okay. You have to feel the vulnerability of being human.
  • The more real you are, the better you are. More intuitive and powerful decisions come.
  • Kul’s dream since he was a kid was to be a police officer. It started settling in his mindset when he was little. Being a police officer meant safety, security, commitment, peacekeeping, etc. Kul thought it was a powerful role to play in the community. Better keep feeding your dream. Kul sent out applications and got 26 rejections. His dream was too strong, he couldn’t give up. He got his dream on the 27th.
  • You need to be hungry for your dream. You’ll earn a resilience if you want it enough. You’re gonna have challenging days. Kul became a leader.
  • According to Kul, if you want your organization to excel in a marked but sustainable way, you have to change your culture. It doesn’t matter if it’s only 10 people or a big 500 group is working under you, Kul does what he terms as ‘management walkabouts’. He talks and connects to every individual. It is only this way you realize the true expertise and depth within your staff.
  • There are two types of leadership: dissonance and resonance. Dissonance is leading in such a way you’re creating a gap between you and the people you’re leading while resonance is about building and bridging the gap with those who you are leading.
  • The moment you’re influencing the outcome for others, you’re a leader. We are at some point in our lives have experienced being a leader.
  • Build human relationships. Talk to your admin lady. Talk to the assistant. They’re the gatekeepers. Talk to the people who know exactly what the process is. Be pleasant to everybody.
  • Remove negativity from your life. People that bring you a bad mood on a daily basis need to be cut off. It doesn’t matter if it’s a family, a friend, or a workmate. Sometimes, it’s healthier if you communicate with them not often as you’re used to. It does not have to be every day.
  • Don’t bottle up everything inside of you. Chances are you’re going to burst at the wrong moment at the wrong time. Let it out. Cry if you have to. Be much more authentic. Be the real you. You’ll be stronger and better.
  • Be authentic to yourself. You want to be seen as you. Show what your passions are. the values are what decides what’s right for you.
  • Every human being has inner spirit. Most don’t know we got it. Most who know it won’t ignite it. Those who recognize it and ignite it are the only people who understand and realize that it’s immense power.
  • Find people who resonate with you and will help you in your journey. You can’t do everything yourself. Get talented people so you can focus on what you do best.
  • Feed your mind. Move your body. Meditate.
  • Kul considers his granddad as his mentor. His granddad came from India with nothing. Kul admires his humility and work ethics.
  • Among his mentors also are John C. Maxwell, Tony Robbins, Liz Brown.


  • “Any human being needs a safe person and a safe place they can offload to.”
  • “I would say that 80% of everything we do in life is about your mindset and 20% is how you do it.”
  • “When you have a dream, it’s like having a pet, the more you feed it the right things, nurture it, and look after it, the stronger it gets.”
  • “Life is only ever transformed when you start doing physical activity, and that action has to be in line with your mindset.”
  • “If values are there, knowledge comes next.”
  • “Anyone can shift our behaviours, our actions, and our lives if we want to.”



Jay Dhillon is a serial entrepreneur, investor and philanthropist based in the UK with a proven track record of growing businesses from start-up to success- and helping others do the same. From humble beginnings, Jay grew his first business from 0-500 employees and three locations, racking up sales of over £30 million – all without any investment other than a small amount of savings. The business went on to acquire major clients such as Landrover, Jaguar, Toyota and New Look, to name a few.

Its huge success inevitably brought about outside interest and at the age of 33, Jay eventually sold the company to a London investment firm in Doyen Resources. Today, Jay owns several businesses in different sectors and helps entrepreneurs achieve success.

A calling to give back and help others led to Jay being chosen for the highly-coveted role as a Prince’s Trust mentor, where his achievements were marked by a personal invitation to Buckingham Palace to meet Prince Charles.

After helping several young entrepreneurs to success as a mentor for the Trust, Jay’s burning desire to bring his wisdom and knowledge to a wider audience ultimately triggered the concept of The Business Mentor Podcast.

Jay feels that anyone can achieve success in business with the right advice and mentoring and is now sharing his knowledge with his growing audience via his podcast.

In the UK alone 95% of business fail within the first five years and Jay’s aim is to reduce that number.

Backed with the hard-earned knowledge and experience from his time in business, The Business Mentor Podcast will share Jay’s personal business lessons as well those of other successful entrepreneur guests who share their wisdom and secrets on the show.


Kul Mahay served for 32 years in the UK police service, of which two-thirds were spent at leadership level.  In his life as a police leader he has overseen complex and varied departments and commanded critical and major operational scenarios.

He has been coaching leaders for over 20 years and now works with a global client base of business owners and senior leaders, using his unique style to help them to not only further their leadership potential but to feel more fulfilled, despite the challenges of their roles.

Kul has worked with police forces, universities, fire services and the oil industry in UK, UAE, Qatar, India and Ukraine to help develop empowered cultures.  His passion for leadership is evident in everything that he does.  His personal coaching client base has spanned the globe.

He is the founder of one of the fastest growing inner leadership events in the UK, IGNITE YOUR INNER POTENTIAL™, which is delivered at public, organisational and youth level.

Kul is also the author of the popular book, ‘Smash the Habit,’ which draws on his experience of overcoming long-held habits. He believes that physical habits are just symptoms of mental habits.  He now coaches, speaks and trains on the art of leadership internationally.


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